WHEN was the last time you dwelled on "What if's?" We're familiar with questions that start with those two words. They usually kick in when we think of regrets, things we should've done, could've done. And the more we would think about the many things that we ought to have done, we just feel worse. Are you familiar with that feeling? I am.
Hindsight is always 20/20, as some people have shared. That is really true. And "what ifs," while they make the past situation clearer, leaves us feeling more unsettled.
But what if we use these two words in another way? What if we use them as a proactive way, to move forward? ;)
After we're done saying "What if I could have stopped him from leaving?," ask "What if I think of ways to move on now?" Instead of "What if I had said this during the meeting?," ask "What if I push my suggestion in the next?" There's a subtle difference in wording, but the perspectives are miles apart.
Try using "What if's" to think of possibilities for tomorrow, not possibilities that could have been. This makes better use of our time and spirit. :)
What if we change the perspective on what-ifs?
WHEN was the last time you dwelled on "What if's?" We're familiar with questions that start with those two words. They usually kick in when we think of regrets, things we should've done, could've done. And the more we would think about the many things that we ought to have done, we just feel worse. Are you familiar with that feeling? I am.
Hindsight is always 20/20, as some people have shared. That is really true. And "what ifs," while they make the past situation clearer, leaves us feeling more unsettled.
But what if we use these two words in another way? What if we use them as a proactive way, to move forward? ;)
After we're done saying "What if I could have stopped him from leaving?," ask "What if I think of ways to move on now?" Instead of "What if I had said this during the meeting?," ask "What if I push my suggestion in the next?" There's a subtle difference in wording, but the perspectives are miles apart.
Try using "What if's" to think of possibilities for tomorrow, not possibilities that could have been. This makes better use of our time and spirit. :)
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But what if we use these two words in another way? What if we use them as a proactive way, to move forward?
-yeah!ur absolutely right on that one ms toni. i bet the feeling wud be a lot more gratifying. let's try to be optimistic and leave behind negative thoughts. that way will be able to live and appreciate life
we usually associate what if on the negative scenario... thanks for the idea of using it in affirmative way..
According to me 'what if' is all about regretting or dissatisfaction over what we did and sometimes its good to feel it because its like trying to learn where we went wrong. Its wise on our part to learn from mistakes and try to improve, but I feel if the feeling 'what if' often comes into our minds its not a good sign because it makes us feel we are not good at what we do. Nobody is perfect, so I think we should try to be satisfied with how we handled things because what's being done cannot be undone but there's always room for improvement. Regretting sometimes teaches us lessons but its always better to put up our best so that even if we did was not our best shot we can still be at peace that we did our best.
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What if we use them as a proactive way, to move forward? ;) After we're done saying "What if I could have stopped him from leaving?," ask "What if I think of ways to move on now?" Instead of "What if I had said this during the meeting?," ask "What if I push my suggestion in the next?" There's a subtle difference in wording, but the perspectives are miles apart. Try using "What if's" to think of possibilities for tomorrow, not possibilities that could have been. This makes better use of our time and spirit. :)
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