WHEN was the last time you dwelled on “What if’s?” We’re familiar with questions that start with those two words. They usually kick in when we think of regrets, things we should’ve done, could’ve done. And the more we would think about the many things that we ought to have done, we just feel worse. Are you familiar with that feeling? I am.
Hindsight is always 20/20, as some people have shared. That is really true. And “what ifs,” while they make the past situation clearer, leaves us feeling more unsettled.
But what if we use these two words in another way? What if we use them as a proactive way, to move forward? 
After we’re done saying “What if I could have stopped him from leaving?,” ask “What if I think of ways to move on now?” Instead of “What if I had said this during the meeting?,” ask “What if I push my suggestion in the next?” There’s a subtle difference in wording, but the perspectives are miles apart.
Try using “What if’s” to think of possibilities for tomorrow, not possibilities that could have been. This makes better use of our time and spirit. 
October 12th, 2008 at 8:57 pm
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October 12th, 2008 at 12:14 am
what if to make us move forward rather than remember what has been done…
ourtrageous perspective to look forward…
October 11th, 2008 at 6:43 am
Thanks Ms Toni, cool idea! This will help me a lot in dealing with problems.
October 10th, 2008 at 10:32 am
Nice! You’ve brought out the positivism in me! Please keep on posting other great thoughts and nuggets of wisdom. More power! Thanks!
October 10th, 2008 at 8:01 am
Nice one very good approach=)