BEING alone doesn’t mean having to be lonely.

I’ve always subscribed to the thinking that unless you’re comfortable with who you are, then you won’t be at peace when you’re with others. It’s a path that’s tough to take. You make a lot of mistakes along the way as you try to find what gives you peace, what gives you happiness. Some find it easier to fulfill other people’s happiness. But how can you really make others happy when you yourself aren’t?

Imagine a bucket. Unless it’s filled with water, how can you help others refresh themselves? Refresh yourself first, then refresh others.

But I go back to being comfortable with yourself, being by yourself. True, hanging out with friends and being surrounded by family is priceless. But what happens when you find yourself on your own? What happens when you can’t connect with anyone else? Will you distract yourself from your lonesomeness? Or do you find activities that you, on your own, can find comfort and happiness in too?

You have a lot of happiness inside you. Just as you make time to get to know someone else, make time to get to know yourself too. Take yourself out on a date. Indulge in your favorites. Make yourself smile. Be comfortable in being alone, in being you. It’s when you’re happy on your own that you’ll find yourself in an even happier place when you’re with others.