I can put a whole new meaning to being frugal, sometimes. And I’m proud of it. Unfortunately, the golden dust of stinginess can wear off so quickly because the next minute, I can be the worst spendthrift on the planet. Have you ever been bitten by these financial mood swings?
Here’s an example. I love my more than 10-year old Esprit wristwatch. I bought it with money I earned from my first award as a journalist back in 1997 (and I mention that here only to explain its sentimental value). In a moment of extreme klutzness, it fell from a super-high tower rack and it stopped working. The face was a mess of broken glass.
In a normal situation, I would have loved shopping for a replacement. This time, however, I was moping about in the mall, not excited to buy a new one. I kept telling myself that it’s more than 10 years old, for heaven’s sake. I deserve to buy one with a spiffy new design or a classic Omega-like look, you know?
I got it back for P500, including an P80 tip for the guy who fixed and cleaned it. The sturdy Swiss parts saved me P10,000, but that means I’m still wearing what I wore as a cub reporter.
Turn back the reels to the previous scene. Hubby and I decide to buy some beach shorts from Landmark department store. Most expensive pair of beach wear I ever saw at P4,500. Before we knew it, I had decided that he also “needed” two new shirts, I “needed” new clothes, the kids “needed” new shuttlecocks and Speedo goggles. Err… and this example is pretty tame.
One moment, extra stingy I could put Ilocanos to shame. Next, total spendthrift. Solution: self-awareness.
Mindless impulse spending starts when self-awareness ends. Who likes to feel deprived, after all? Who likes to be the country mouse in the big city? Who would choose to keep P30,000 untouched when it’s a bonus from a job well done? A little pandering to the latest fashion trends won’t hurt! I will pay that credit card bill next month, honest! (Yeah, right).
Ideally, every time we open our wallets we should be thinking, not feeling. But that’s easier said than done. That’s why consistency in frugality is difficult to achieve and we’re often caught between money mood swings that raid our bank accounts and our peace of mind.
Tempering money mood swings is a worthy goal, however. In the beginning, we might need tricks to bear down on feelings of deprivation, like taking one small bite of chocolate instead of mindlessly digging into a whole bag of Kisses chocolate.
If the mood swings are volatile, keep trying. Let’s use incentives and remember to give ourselves time in the hopes that soon, just the mere fact that we have been consistent is all that we need to feel satisfied.
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:37 am
G, whoa! Shipping is free even for bedsheets? Hmmm. *giving you a wicked look* you are giving me some terrible ideas hahaha.
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:20 am
Memo to Salve, you are not alone. Do you need a hug? Haha!
I live a similar lifestyle with Ghia. But the suitcase, well, it became suitcases. I just gave 3/4 of my ‘closet’ content to the typhoon donation drive last week. Now it can be truly said I am now living on a single suitcase. Yeehaa!
PS: Donations are still being received by the Sagip Kapamilya for the typhoon Frank victims. [Am not connected with this company]
July 3rd, 2008 at 10:50 am
ah, amazon!
once i discovered it, there was no turning back!
i have bought books, cameras and lenses (hubby’s requests), toys, bedsheets (what bargains!) and other what have you’s. Such a shopper’s haven! And delivery is free for a $25 purchase too! I just have the stuff delivered also to the hubby (when he’s there) or to officemates who are on training. Doesn’t matter in what State as long as i get my stuff in the end! (*_*)
I even buy jewelry online! And on installment!
*sigh*
July 3rd, 2008 at 8:52 am
Ripemango, I so agree! As I read somewhere, cheap is not the same as being frugal. I’m also choosy when buying from malls as I see clothes there that are also being sold in tiangges. For kids, its alright sometimes because they grow out of their clothes easily too. I say, sometimes. Because even for my toddler, i stick to Enfant and St. Patrick because they don’t look frayed even after being worn for quite a while!
July 3rd, 2008 at 8:51 am
Ghia, that’s what i’m talking about. the discipline and the self-awareness. congratulations on setting aside 10% of your savings regularly! experts say when the habit’s there, its easier to raise the amount to match your savings needs, say make it 15% in a year’s time, or 20% even.
Hmm. i should aim for a suitcase life too hehe. that’s a good strategy for keeping life simple!