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Don’t borrow and forget

01/05/09

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We have seen it before, and perhaps too often for comfort. I’m talking about temporary amnesia after borrowing from a friend or family member.

Once or twice I have been an offender (eating out with friends and the scramble for change leaves you in, say, P250 debt you plan to pay once you get to an ATM, that sort of thing), and several times, I have been a victim. It has come to a point that my friends and I make sure to give even a P5-change as soon as possible when paying for whatever, just so we wouldn’t forget. Feels good.

I am posting below an article from Mike G. Rivera (with her and the subject’s permission) to illustrate what temporary financial amnesia, so convenient for some, can do to others’ financial wellbeing. Mike is doing all he can so that others will be cured of their, uhh, temporary amnesia. So if you’re a UP Diliman student or know of someone who still owes money, give her or him a shake, will ya?
 

Paying It Back For Mang Milton
By Mike G. Rivera

Meet Meliton Zamora, a retired University of the Philippines janitor and my hero.

For forty-five years, he swept floors, cleaned up trash, watered plants and did odd jobs at the University. I met him when I was active with the UP Repertory Company, a theater group based (then) at the third floor lobby of the Arts & Sciences (AS) building. He would sweep and mop the hallway floors in silence, venturing only a nod and a smile whenever I passed him.

Back then, for me he was just one of those characters whom you got acquainted with and left behind as soon as you earned your degree and left the university for some big job in the real world. Someone whose name would probably ring a bell but whose face you’d have a hard time picturing. But for many UP students like me who were hard up and had a difficult time paying their tuition fees, Mang Mel was a hero who gave them the opportunity to finish university and get a big job in the real world.

The year was 1993 and I was on my last semester as a Clothing Technology student. My parents had been down on their luck and were struggling to pay for my tuition fee. I had been categorized as Bracket 9 in the recently implemented Socialized Tuiton and Financial Assistance Program (STFAP). My father had lost his job and to supplement my allowance, I worked part time as a Guest Relations Officer at Sam’s Diner (back when the term GRO didn’t have shady undertones) and took some odd jobs as a Production Assistant, movie extra and wardrobe mistress.

To be eligible for graduation, I had to enroll in my last three courses and pay my tuition fee. Since my parents didn’t have enough money for my matriculation, I applied for a student loan hoping that my one of my Home Economics (HE) professors would take pity on me and sign on as a guarantor for the student loan. But those whom I approached either refused or were not eligible as guarantors. After two unsuccessful weeks of looking for a guarantor, my prospects looked dim, my future dark. And so, there I was, a downtrodden twenty year old with a foggy future, crying in the AS lobby. I only had twenty four hours left to look for a guarantor.

Mang Mel, with a mop in hand, approached me and asked me why I was crying. I told him I had no guarantor for my student loan and will probably not be able to enroll this semester. I had no hopes that he would be able to help me. After all, he was just a janitor. He borrowed my loan application papers and said softly,

“Puwede ako pumirma. Empleyado ako ng UP. (I can sign. I am a UP employee.)” He borrowed my pen and signed his name. With his simple act of faith, Mang Mel not only saved my day, he also saved my future.

I paid my student loan the summer after that fateful day with Mang Milton and it has been 15 years since then. I am not filthy rich but I do have a good job in the real world that allows me to support my family and eat three meals a day. A few weeks ago, a friend and UP
Professor, Daki, told me that Mang Mel recently recorded an album which he sells to supplement his meager retirement pay, I asked another friend, Blaise, who’s taking his Master’s degree at UP to find out how we could contact Mang Mel. My gesture of gratitude for Mang Mel’s altruism has been long overdue. As fate would have it, my friend saw Mang Mel coming out of the shrubbery from behind the UP library, carrying firewood. He got Mang Mel’s address and promised him that we would come over to buy his album.

Together with Blaise and my husband Augie, I went to pay Mang Mel a visit last Sunday. Unfortunately, he was out doing a little sideline gardening for a UP professor in Tandang Sora. We were welcomed into their home by his daughter Kit. As she pointed out to a laminated photo of Mang Mel on the wall, she proudly told us that her father did retire with recognition from the University. However, she sadly related to us that many of the students whose loans Mang Mel guaranteed neglected to settle their student loans.

After forty-five years of service to the
University, Mang Mel was only attributed 171 days of work for his retirement pay because all the unpaid student loans were deducted from his full retirement pay of about 675 days. This seems to me a cruel repayment for his kindness.

This is a cybercall to anyone who did not get to pay their student loans that were guaranteed by Mang Mel. Anytime would be a good time to show Mang Mel your gratitude.

Mang Mel is not asking for a dole out, though I know he will be thankful for any assistance you can give. So I ask those of you who also benefited from Mang Meliton’s goodness or for those who simply wish to share your blessings, please do visit Mang Mel and buy his CD
(P350 only) at No. 16-A, Block 1, Pook Ricarte, U.P. Campus, Diliman, Quezon City (behind UP International House) or contact his daughter Kit V. Zamora at 0916-4058104.

Also found here.

Editor’s Note: Mang Mel has clarified that there were three unpaid loans. These and the hospitalization of his grandchild at the UP infirmary were deducted from his last bonus and retirement fund.





15 Feedbacks on "Don’t borrow and forget"



paetechie

i know many people with amnesia when it comes to debt :(

if only mang mel can blog he can post the names of the three who didn’t pay their loans or have them circulated to UP Alumni circles to track them down. borrowing money from kind but poor souls without paying is cruel indeed



Public servant

so pathetic, how people easily forget… but GOD sees everything and HE will bring it back a thousandfold… to the concerned delinquent debtors be scared of karma… IT MAY NOT COME BACK TO YOU BUT TO YOUR CHILDREN.



helen

It is NEW YEAR…and i wish and hope those who owes him will make ammends and pay of their youthful irresposibile gestures to people whom they owe their debt and gratitude.
Many people had practiced their amnesia with me as well…and they were the ones who have more.

God Bless you, Mang Mel!!!

Helen of Toronto



Erich

I take my hats off for Mang Mel. Perhaps UP Diliman can take up the cudgel and see how they can help this silent and unsung hero… I for one believe we are slowly decling morally as the thrust for materialism is gaining in strength.

I have been often the victim of friends who forget. Now my cynicism has caused me to keep my wallet lean and not to expose myself to such scenarios.

What if Mang Mel took a page off my books? How many wouldn’t have graduated then?



nina

maraming ganyan yong may amnesia. ako pa naman nahihiya magsingil….



businessman

I wish more people were like Mang Mel. To the students who still owe mang Mel some money, please repay him as soon as possible.



Claudine

Hats off to Mang Mel! I just hope the 3 students who have unpaid loans pay them back. Don’t let the person who helped you suffer from what you’ve done. You may not be able to pay it in full but a little each time would go a long way.



Leo Ebreo

Fellow bloggers,

Through this forum let us call U.P.s attention on this sad plight of Mang Milton. UP’s Administration should at least had exerted some effort in compelling these ‘ingratos’ to make good of their promises to Mang Milton, (assuming they have stayed and graduated with their respective discipline) before garnishment was attached to Mang Milton’s meager pension benefit. Mang MIlton, di po natutlog ang Diyos. The law of God and the law of nature will soon catch up with these ingrate in due time.

University of the Philippines should expose the names of these individuals who owes and in fairness to Mang Milton, please restore his pension benefit to the full; as a token to his dedicated long years of civil service and benevolent character. Salamat po, Mang Milton. Nakakahawa po ang magandang ugali ninyo.



mzkukuro

Me and my hubby have made a policy not to borrow any more of our savings. This is after two of our friends have borrowed from us and promised and promised and promised to pay. Borrowers are good when they are the ones in need but when it comes to payment when you need the money, sila pa may gana to say: “Oo babayaran kita, maghintay ka nga.” :(

Only part with money that you know you wont miss.



nina

@mzkukuro

hay naku, ako nadala na rin. Tapos nung ako ang may kailngan, wala ka man lang malapitan. Sabi nga doon sa isang blog na nabsa ko, pag friends daw or kamag-anak, lend the amount you can afford to write-off or wag na pautangin kasi nga nagiging cause pa ng samaaan ng loob, nasisira ang good relationship.



jamezu

Ang mundo nga naman, kung sino na ang may malasakit, siya pa ang dehado. Sana mabayaran na sa kanya ang mga student loans na yun para naman maganda ang retirement ni mang mel.



mzkukuro

@nina,

So true. Tas kami pa ngayon masama. So in future, better na masama na di nagpapahiram kaysa masama na nagpahiram.



cj

To set the record: UP administration cannot be blamed for the pittance received by Mang Mel when he retired. He was known to monetize a large portion of his leave credits when a call for monetization is announced. Aside from that, he was contesting the record of his leave credits saying he never applied for a leave when records at HRDO shows otherwise!



cj

pero in fairness kay mang mel, masayahin syang tao at masipag…



aldrew

let’s stop counting pennies. less talk, more action. let’s help this old man, period. yes, anyone with a heart.



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