Kris Aquino and James Yap are all smiles in an interview with ABS-CBN’s “The Buzz” on July 13.
Emerging from a much-needed marriage counseling, the couple seemed to have acknowledged each other’s frailties and would not give up on each other “through thick and thin.”
It was only a few weeks back when reports circulated that Kris and James were again headed for splitsville, which were borne out of domestic misunderstandings, petty fights, and allegedly a long-standing squabble involving Ai Ai delas Alas. Kris and James had a quarrel about Ai-Ai’s “isauli mo si James sa nanay niya” advice to Kris at the height of the Hope Centeno issue last year. This led to a major fight, allegedly, which made Kris leave home for several days.
But, obviously, this wasn’t the only issue. James himself revealed this in the interview.
“Dati inis na inis ako at saka galit na galit ako dahil nagde-desisyon ng mag-isa ito eh. Hindi pinapaalam sa akin. Major (issue) yun eh. Kailangan ipaalam mo kung ano yung mga desisyon mo. Para walang problema, di mag-aaway.”
Kris also revealed her issues with James:
“Ako naman sabi ko sa kanya, pag galit ka, don’t ignore me. Parang ayaw mong magpakita sa akin. Mas lalong magagalit ako. Ako confrontational, talk ng talk ng talk,” Kris said.
Kris and James said they both poured out respective ill-feelings about each other and worked out all the kinks. They said the counseling was very helpful in knowing each other better and facing future conflicts constructively.
James told Kris, “Ang dami nating natutunan in the past three years. Sana mas lalo pa tayo tatatag. Love kita. Sana habang buhay tayo magkasama. Forever.”
For her part Kris told James, “I appreciate very much na humaba na yung pasensiya mo. Doon sa mga moments na nag-ba-brat ako, natatawanan mo na. Na-appreciate ko na ngayon, na-vo-voice out mo na appreciative ka sa akin. Happy ako na meron tayong commitment. Panindigan ito na magmahalan tayo. Gawin nating strong yung family. ”
Kris then said she has accepted her place in the family:
“Tanggap ko na bilang misis, dapat walang ego. Kung sa labas ng bahay natin, pwede ako magsikat-sikatan, sa ating dalawa, walang ganoon. Pantay-pantay. Sa decision making, siyempre nag-ko-konsultahan tayo pero tanggap ko na yung final say ay nasa yo.”
October 18th, 2008 at 12:52 am
bakit kaya itong mga handlers at clothes designer ni Kris Aquino parang bulag di kaya nakikita ang mga pinasusuot kay Kris na hapit na hapit at dyos kong malaking balakang kala mo yung balakang ni Bituin Escalante. Sus maryospe kayong tao pati na yung panty niya eh naka mark dun sa sinusuot niya sa Deal or No Deal…hoy kayo diyan magsalita naman kayo sabihin no si Kris na kadiri yung mga sinusuot na sa Deal or No Deal…product endorser pa naman siyang nasabi.
October 7th, 2008 at 7:45 pm
wala namang perfect couple sa mundo, normal lang na mag-away ang mag-asawa,tama lang na humingi cla ng advise..khit takles c Ms.Kris Aquino idol ko pa din yan…i don’t know her,pero sinusubaybayan ko ang love life story nya.
Good Luck idol,
September 19th, 2008 at 2:51 pm
di na dapat pinag uusapan sa public ang dapat eh private matter na. sana yung mga taga showbiz eh itaas naman kalidad nila….at itaas yung kanilang pagkatao na hindi dahil gusto nilang pag usapan at para kumita mga projects nila eh sa expense naman ng kanilang pribadong buhay. kung sana yung mga project na lang ang pag usapan. napaghahalata tuloy yung hindi talaga marunong umarte….kelangan pang kaladkarin pati pamilya. tigilan na natin ganitong sistema. matagal na tayong nakakahiya mga pilipino pagdating sa showbiz. napaka-cheap natin.
August 18th, 2008 at 5:35 am
ano ba yan. divorce na.
kris and james are two separate people. Isang sosyalerang slut and the other is a very poor good and kind hearted boy.
James should marry his own level and so do Kris. As my mom always puts it, water seeks its own level. Never marry a mahirap, period.
July 26th, 2008 at 2:30 am
Dear all,
I know it’s devastating seeing couples throwing unnecessary words in public. Somehow it affects the viewing public nor most the kids idolizing celebrities.
Furthermore, it doesn’t makes it healthy for the whole family. If only people can keep it privately, the more it is helpful to the society, and not dragging all the that has been said and done to the public.
Regarding separation, it is a very long process for me, to save it first before anything else in times of trouble, counselling is one sign though couples are willing to negotiate and understand each other more through the end. But what if both were out of passion for each other and still have to be intact for the kids’ sake? Isn’t it hard to do?
I myself dont see it good to proceed. It’s better to be along than to suffer every unhappy moment. Let me ask you, how long should it last?
July 24th, 2008 at 6:36 am
Bravo kris !!1 at least this time pumanig ka sa side ni James during his latest basketball trouble, i could see how happy he was during the last interview by Mr. Boy Abunda to The Buzz. kase sa relationship talagang importante sa bawat partner na ipinakikita , ipinadarama at pinahahalagahan ang suporta ng bawat isa. Sanay lawakan nyo pa ang inyong isipan at isang tabi kung ano man katigorya meron kayo sa isat-isa. God bless you .
July 23rd, 2008 at 11:48 pm
YUK and baduy nyo pati ba naman ipamamalita sa publico ang mga pangyayari sa marriage nyo..keep it to yourselves oi?
July 23rd, 2008 at 8:47 am
to kris and james
always keep in mind that the person beside you will be your company forever.
i just want to let you know that whatever misundertanding you will have (petty or major issue in life) as much as possible keep it first to your selves. Try not to divulge it to whoever. kasi i believe mas maraming negative vibes ang mga tao sa paligid natin which sometimes contributes sa mga simpleng problemang pambahay na nagiging result sa more comlex away. Minsan kasi when we say something to our friend, dahil sa inis natin sa partner, we deliver yung maga emotions natin na may halong galit and yun yong na aabsord nila so pag nakuwento na kung kani-kanino mas marami na yung negative comments rather than inspire them.
maraming ways para iwasan ang problem keep on praying
July 22nd, 2008 at 12:13 pm
Hi Kris & James,
Wish you happiness now and in the future. you know kris, being a misis is a bit hard at first( i have been through that also) but if you love your husband, it is all worth it. pride & ego will not embrace and keep you warm at night. it is so comforting to always have a husband who hugs, love and whisper silly things on you. i always believe it is the woman who keeps the family together. it is us who keeps the fight. go for it girl.
July 22nd, 2008 at 8:31 am
Good luck! It’s good that both of you are working to make things better. One question lang, Why is the last or final decision is by James? That is not an indication of a fruitful relationship.
July 21st, 2008 at 5:58 pm
hahaha i just have to say this.. of all the posters here, the one i agree most is the message of cheska..sometimes brattiness can be a weapon to force your partner to just distance himself away.. well ur views on marriage are, well, “motherhood blah blahs..” ur wasting precious time trying to inject these “beautiful or beatific ideas” about marriage into kris’ mind.. she has another concept of marriage, counselling or with no counselling. i’ll bet she’ll be casting daggers stares again on james in few days when the halo fades from her head.. she is too bright for these marital views, all is about sex, being possessive and i-own-your-life sort of existence.
July 18th, 2008 at 6:53 pm
Hi kris and james!i am a fun of yours!i am praying that everything will be alright for both of you.most couples really experience that kind of a problems (jealous etc.)but one thing for sure is the solution for that problem trust and obey to each one of you!always remember baby james maybe you ask me why?baby james is God blessings to both of you.in our Holy Bible the first baby for the couple that is a boy means a bleesings to God and God is happy for each one of you,always give time to each other because communication is one of the important part in a relationship.Always pray to God that he will give both of you wisdom and patience in everyday challenge.okey until here thanks!
July 17th, 2008 at 1:32 pm
Hi Kris & James, am very proud of you both for keeping the family/marriage intack. Above anything else one must always give-in, inorder for the relationship to be harmonious and grow stronger. Keep this poem in mind and by heart. Take Care and Love Lots.
XLIII. “How do I love thee? Let me count the ways…”
by Elizabeth Barrett Browning (1806-1861)
How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.
I love thee to the level of everyday’s
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for Right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.
I love thee with a passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints, — I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life! — and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.
July 16th, 2008 at 8:04 pm
hay naku pag nagsawa si kris sa lalaki niya sigurado na ang dispatsa history repeats… walang bago sa kanya!
July 16th, 2008 at 6:56 pm
Dear James and Kris,
Marriage is not a bed of roses. They say that the first 2-3 years of marriage are full of adjustments and compromise until you really get to know each other. If you cannot stabilize your relationship during this 3-year window, then you are headed to be included in the statistics of divorced/separated couples in showbiz.
July 16th, 2008 at 5:33 pm
Everytime one family breaks up, I feel sad not for the parents but for the children.
Kris and James, I hope youll be strong enough to face whatever challenges will come your way, for the sake of your children.
July 16th, 2008 at 8:25 am
Hello James and Kris,
One of the best foundations of a long lasting happy marriage is to include the Lord in the marriage. Since you are both Catholics, I would suggest you both attend a Christian Life Program conducted by the Couples for Christ. It will enhance your marriage. I am not a fan nor fond of showbiz but just an ordinary person that wish you a happy and peaceful marriage. It can be done. You should invest time with activities that will bring both of you closer to God. The Holy Spirit will guide you. No amount of success can compensate for failure in relationship/marriage. We wish you more success in your marriage. God bless.
July 16th, 2008 at 7:19 am
JAMES YAP YOUR D MAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
KEEP IT UP.
July 16th, 2008 at 7:16 am
I’M SAD IF KRIS & JAMES SEPERATED BECAUSE I’VE BEEN THIER AVID FANS SINCE THERE RELATIONSHIP STARTED I FEEL SAD I CAN’T EAT.
July 16th, 2008 at 6:31 am
both should read & listen 2 Dr.Phil’s Family First.
July 16th, 2008 at 2:37 am
I am very happy to know how you really meant to fixed you relationship. Since the begenning I keep praying na sana makahanap ka ng relation na di ka masasaktan. many say your mayabang Kris but thats the way you are and they dont understand you. keep it up and I will keep praying for you na God will lead you in the right way. God bless you and James so with your kids.
July 15th, 2008 at 7:03 pm
It’s great that they now have a more solid relationship because they can communicate their their feelings and thoughts without inhibition. They are very lucky that they found out what communications can do to better their relationship, and I appreciate what they said about being equal. Being both celebrities, I’m sure there’s a tremendous amount of ego involved seeing that they’re both young. I think it’s great that they were able to resolve their problems through counseling, I hope that they are strong enough to remember their commitments to each other. It’s wrong for Kris to say however, that she is ready to accept that James has the final say, that she knows now her place in the family, I want to ask which place that is, the subservient wife? Why should James have the final say?
I thought the purpose of the counseling is for the couple to thresh out their differences and to accept them for what they are, but not to sacrifice their own individuality. Kris can say what she wants to say to keep the peace in the family, but it will be a fragile truce, not solid, because both of them has strong egos being in the limelight of public adoration. What they really just have to learn is the Serenity Prayer to co-exist. Be individuals in public, partners in private, and be loving and accepting at all times, be supportive at all times and not feel threatened by their individual public persona.
July 15th, 2008 at 1:08 pm
Kris and James mabuhay kayo. Keep it up, sa pagsasamahan nang mag-asawa, give and take yan. I’ve been married for almost 30years this coming Sept. 9, through the years we’ve been married, ang napansin ko, tayong babae ang nagdadala nang relationship, nasa babae ang itatagal nang pagsasama nang mag-asawa, in a sense na sa kaunting bagay lang pwede tayong magbigay, but of course malaking contributor din ang lalake. Mapagmahal tayong babae kung mabait at mapagmahal din ang ating asawa. Good luck and stay together FOREVER. WE LOVE YOU.
July 15th, 2008 at 10:01 am
mabuti yan para mabawasan kaartehan ni kris. wake up in reality that she is just like us, has ups and downs. i hope one day she can get rid of her ” aha ha ha ” sweety my ass attitude.
July 15th, 2008 at 7:04 am
whatever!