Kris Aquino and James Yap are all smiles in an interview with ABS-CBN’s “The Buzz” on July 13.
Emerging from a much-needed marriage counseling, the couple seemed to have acknowledged each other’s frailties and would not give up on each other “through thick and thin.”
It was only a few weeks back when reports circulated that Kris and James were again headed for splitsville, which were borne out of domestic misunderstandings, petty fights, and allegedly a long-standing squabble involving Ai Ai delas Alas. Kris and James had a quarrel about Ai-Ai’s “isauli mo si James sa nanay niya” advice to Kris at the height of the Hope Centeno issue last year. This led to a major fight, allegedly, which made Kris leave home for several days.
But, obviously, this wasn’t the only issue. James himself revealed this in the interview.
“Dati inis na inis ako at saka galit na galit ako dahil nagde-desisyon ng mag-isa ito eh. Hindi pinapaalam sa akin. Major (issue) yun eh. Kailangan ipaalam mo kung ano yung mga desisyon mo. Para walang problema, di mag-aaway.”
Kris also revealed her issues with James:
“Ako naman sabi ko sa kanya, pag galit ka, don’t ignore me. Parang ayaw mong magpakita sa akin. Mas lalong magagalit ako. Ako confrontational, talk ng talk ng talk,” Kris said.
Kris and James said they both poured out respective ill-feelings about each other and worked out all the kinks. They said the counseling was very helpful in knowing each other better and facing future conflicts constructively.
James told Kris, “Ang dami nating natutunan in the past three years. Sana mas lalo pa tayo tatatag. Love kita. Sana habang buhay tayo magkasama. Forever.”
For her part Kris told James, “I appreciate very much na humaba na yung pasensiya mo. Doon sa mga moments na nag-ba-brat ako, natatawanan mo na. Na-appreciate ko na ngayon, na-vo-voice out mo na appreciative ka sa akin. Happy ako na meron tayong commitment. Panindigan ito na magmahalan tayo. Gawin nating strong yung family. ”
Kris then said she has accepted her place in the family:
“Tanggap ko na bilang misis, dapat walang ego. Kung sa labas ng bahay natin, pwede ako magsikat-sikatan, sa ating dalawa, walang ganoon. Pantay-pantay. Sa decision making, siyempre nag-ko-konsultahan tayo pero tanggap ko na yung final say ay nasa yo.”
July 16th, 2008 at 2:37 am
I am very happy to know how you really meant to fixed you relationship. Since the begenning I keep praying na sana makahanap ka ng relation na di ka masasaktan. many say your mayabang Kris but thats the way you are and they dont understand you. keep it up and I will keep praying for you na God will lead you in the right way. God bless you and James so with your kids.
July 15th, 2008 at 7:03 pm
It’s great that they now have a more solid relationship because they can communicate their their feelings and thoughts without inhibition. They are very lucky that they found out what communications can do to better their relationship, and I appreciate what they said about being equal. Being both celebrities, I’m sure there’s a tremendous amount of ego involved seeing that they’re both young. I think it’s great that they were able to resolve their problems through counseling, I hope that they are strong enough to remember their commitments to each other. It’s wrong for Kris to say however, that she is ready to accept that James has the final say, that she knows now her place in the family, I want to ask which place that is, the subservient wife? Why should James have the final say?
I thought the purpose of the counseling is for the couple to thresh out their differences and to accept them for what they are, but not to sacrifice their own individuality. Kris can say what she wants to say to keep the peace in the family, but it will be a fragile truce, not solid, because both of them has strong egos being in the limelight of public adoration. What they really just have to learn is the Serenity Prayer to co-exist. Be individuals in public, partners in private, and be loving and accepting at all times, be supportive at all times and not feel threatened by their individual public persona.
July 15th, 2008 at 1:08 pm
Kris and James mabuhay kayo. Keep it up, sa pagsasamahan nang mag-asawa, give and take yan. I’ve been married for almost 30years this coming Sept. 9, through the years we’ve been married, ang napansin ko, tayong babae ang nagdadala nang relationship, nasa babae ang itatagal nang pagsasama nang mag-asawa, in a sense na sa kaunting bagay lang pwede tayong magbigay, but of course malaking contributor din ang lalake. Mapagmahal tayong babae kung mabait at mapagmahal din ang ating asawa. Good luck and stay together FOREVER. WE LOVE YOU.
July 15th, 2008 at 10:01 am
mabuti yan para mabawasan kaartehan ni kris. wake up in reality that she is just like us, has ups and downs. i hope one day she can get rid of her ” aha ha ha ” sweety my ass attitude.
July 15th, 2008 at 7:04 am
whatever!