Kris Aquino and James Yap are all smiles in an interview with ABS-CBN’s “The Buzz” on July 13.
Emerging from a much-needed marriage counseling, the couple seemed to have acknowledged each other’s frailties and would not give up on each other “through thick and thin.”
It was only a few weeks back when reports circulated that Kris and James were again headed for splitsville, which were borne out of domestic misunderstandings, petty fights, and allegedly a long-standing squabble involving Ai Ai delas Alas. Kris and James had a quarrel about Ai-Ai’s “isauli mo si James sa nanay niya” advice to Kris at the height of the Hope Centeno issue last year. This led to a major fight, allegedly, which made Kris leave home for several days.
But, obviously, this wasn’t the only issue. James himself revealed this in the interview.
“Dati inis na inis ako at saka galit na galit ako dahil nagde-desisyon ng mag-isa ito eh. Hindi pinapaalam sa akin. Major (issue) yun eh. Kailangan ipaalam mo kung ano yung mga desisyon mo. Para walang problema, di mag-aaway.”
Kris also revealed her issues with James:
“Ako naman sabi ko sa kanya, pag galit ka, don’t ignore me. Parang ayaw mong magpakita sa akin. Mas lalong magagalit ako. Ako confrontational, talk ng talk ng talk,” Kris said.
Kris and James said they both poured out respective ill-feelings about each other and worked out all the kinks. They said the counseling was very helpful in knowing each other better and facing future conflicts constructively.
James told Kris, “Ang dami nating natutunan in the past three years. Sana mas lalo pa tayo tatatag. Love kita. Sana habang buhay tayo magkasama. Forever.”
For her part Kris told James, “I appreciate very much na humaba na yung pasensiya mo. Doon sa mga moments na nag-ba-brat ako, natatawanan mo na. Na-appreciate ko na ngayon, na-vo-voice out mo na appreciative ka sa akin. Happy ako na meron tayong commitment. Panindigan ito na magmahalan tayo. Gawin nating strong yung family. ”
Kris then said she has accepted her place in the family:
“Tanggap ko na bilang misis, dapat walang ego. Kung sa labas ng bahay natin, pwede ako magsikat-sikatan, sa ating dalawa, walang ganoon. Pantay-pantay. Sa decision making, siyempre nag-ko-konsultahan tayo pero tanggap ko na yung final say ay nasa yo.”
July 21st, 2008 at 5:58 pm
hahaha i just have to say this.. of all the posters here, the one i agree most is the message of cheska..sometimes brattiness can be a weapon to force your partner to just distance himself away.. well ur views on marriage are, well, “motherhood blah blahs..” ur wasting precious time trying to inject these “beautiful or beatific ideas” about marriage into kris’ mind.. she has another concept of marriage, counselling or with no counselling. i’ll bet she’ll be casting daggers stares again on james in few days when the halo fades from her head.. she is too bright for these marital views, all is about sex, being possessive and i-own-your-life sort of existence.
July 18th, 2008 at 6:53 pm
Hi kris and james!i am a fun of yours!i am praying that everything will be alright for both of you.most couples really experience that kind of a problems (jealous etc.)but one thing for sure is the solution for that problem trust and obey to each one of you!always remember baby james maybe you ask me why?baby james is God blessings to both of you.in our Holy Bible the first baby for the couple that is a boy means a bleesings to God and God is happy for each one of you,always give time to each other because communication is one of the important part in a relationship.Always pray to God that he will give both of you wisdom and patience in everyday challenge.okey until here thanks!
July 17th, 2008 at 1:32 pm
Hi Kris & James, am very proud of you both for keeping the family/marriage intack. Above anything else one must always give-in, inorder for the relationship to be harmonious and grow stronger. Keep this poem in mind and by heart. Take Care and Love Lots.
XLIII. “How do I love thee? Let me count the ways…”
by Elizabeth Barrett Browning (1806-1861)
How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.
I love thee to the level of everyday’s
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for Right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.
I love thee with a passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints, — I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life! — and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.
July 16th, 2008 at 8:04 pm
hay naku pag nagsawa si kris sa lalaki niya sigurado na ang dispatsa history repeats… walang bago sa kanya!
July 16th, 2008 at 6:56 pm
Dear James and Kris,
Marriage is not a bed of roses. They say that the first 2-3 years of marriage are full of adjustments and compromise until you really get to know each other. If you cannot stabilize your relationship during this 3-year window, then you are headed to be included in the statistics of divorced/separated couples in showbiz.