Kris Aquino and James Yap are all smiles in an interview with ABS-CBN’s “The Buzz” on July 13.
Emerging from a much-needed marriage counseling, the couple seemed to have acknowledged each other’s frailties and would not give up on each other “through thick and thin.”
It was only a few weeks back when reports circulated that Kris and James were again headed for splitsville, which were borne out of domestic misunderstandings, petty fights, and allegedly a long-standing squabble involving Ai Ai delas Alas. Kris and James had a quarrel about Ai-Ai’s “isauli mo si James sa nanay niya” advice to Kris at the height of the Hope Centeno issue last year. This led to a major fight, allegedly, which made Kris leave home for several days.
But, obviously, this wasn’t the only issue. James himself revealed this in the interview.
“Dati inis na inis ako at saka galit na galit ako dahil nagde-desisyon ng mag-isa ito eh. Hindi pinapaalam sa akin. Major (issue) yun eh. Kailangan ipaalam mo kung ano yung mga desisyon mo. Para walang problema, di mag-aaway.”
Kris also revealed her issues with James:
“Ako naman sabi ko sa kanya, pag galit ka, don’t ignore me. Parang ayaw mong magpakita sa akin. Mas lalong magagalit ako. Ako confrontational, talk ng talk ng talk,” Kris said.
Kris and James said they both poured out respective ill-feelings about each other and worked out all the kinks. They said the counseling was very helpful in knowing each other better and facing future conflicts constructively.
James told Kris, “Ang dami nating natutunan in the past three years. Sana mas lalo pa tayo tatatag. Love kita. Sana habang buhay tayo magkasama. Forever.”
For her part Kris told James, “I appreciate very much na humaba na yung pasensiya mo. Doon sa mga moments na nag-ba-brat ako, natatawanan mo na. Na-appreciate ko na ngayon, na-vo-voice out mo na appreciative ka sa akin. Happy ako na meron tayong commitment. Panindigan ito na magmahalan tayo. Gawin nating strong yung family. ”
Kris then said she has accepted her place in the family:
“Tanggap ko na bilang misis, dapat walang ego. Kung sa labas ng bahay natin, pwede ako magsikat-sikatan, sa ating dalawa, walang ganoon. Pantay-pantay. Sa decision making, siyempre nag-ko-konsultahan tayo pero tanggap ko na yung final say ay nasa yo.”
July 24th, 2008 at 6:36 am
Bravo kris !!1 at least this time pumanig ka sa side ni James during his latest basketball trouble, i could see how happy he was during the last interview by Mr. Boy Abunda to The Buzz. kase sa relationship talagang importante sa bawat partner na ipinakikita , ipinadarama at pinahahalagahan ang suporta ng bawat isa. Sanay lawakan nyo pa ang inyong isipan at isang tabi kung ano man katigorya meron kayo sa isat-isa. God bless you .
July 23rd, 2008 at 11:48 pm
YUK and baduy nyo pati ba naman ipamamalita sa publico ang mga pangyayari sa marriage nyo..keep it to yourselves oi?
July 23rd, 2008 at 8:47 am
to kris and james
always keep in mind that the person beside you will be your company forever.
i just want to let you know that whatever misundertanding you will have (petty or major issue in life) as much as possible keep it first to your selves. Try not to divulge it to whoever. kasi i believe mas maraming negative vibes ang mga tao sa paligid natin which sometimes contributes sa mga simpleng problemang pambahay na nagiging result sa more comlex away. Minsan kasi when we say something to our friend, dahil sa inis natin sa partner, we deliver yung maga emotions natin na may halong galit and yun yong na aabsord nila so pag nakuwento na kung kani-kanino mas marami na yung negative comments rather than inspire them.
maraming ways para iwasan ang problem keep on praying
July 22nd, 2008 at 12:13 pm
Hi Kris & James,
Wish you happiness now and in the future. you know kris, being a misis is a bit hard at first( i have been through that also) but if you love your husband, it is all worth it. pride & ego will not embrace and keep you warm at night. it is so comforting to always have a husband who hugs, love and whisper silly things on you. i always believe it is the woman who keeps the family together. it is us who keeps the fight. go for it girl.
July 22nd, 2008 at 8:31 am
Good luck! It’s good that both of you are working to make things better. One question lang, Why is the last or final decision is by James? That is not an indication of a fruitful relationship.