UPDATE: Added a Dolly Anne/Ruffa/Annabelle poll at the Vox Populi homepage.
THE WAY Annabelle and Ruffa parade the marital woes [of Ruffa and Yilmaz Bektas] on national TV is appalling!
Just this Sunday afternoon on both GMA and ABS-CBN Ruffa’s marriage was again the issue with a rejoinder from estranged husband Yilmaz while mother Annabelle was spewing invectives on GMA.
I hope the mother and daughter are happy with the media attention they got but for the life of me, can’t they settle the issues quietly and move on?
– Alona Briones, Fairview, Quezon City (via e-mail)
June 10th, 2007 at 2:44 pm
Republika ng Pilipinas
KAGAWARAN NG KATARUNGAN
Department of Justice
Manila
Ramon J. Liwag
Acting Secretary
Posted by Atty. Magdalena Lepiten
What is bigamy?
Bigamy, under Art. 349 of Title 12 Crimes against the Civil Status of Persons of the Revised Penal Code states:
The penalty of prision mayor shall be imposed upon any person who shall contract a second or subsequent marriage before the former marriage has been legally dissolved, or before the absent spouse has been declared presumptively dead by means of a judgment rendered in the proper proceedings.
The elements for the crime to be consummated are:
1. the accused is a married person
2. the accused contracted a second or subsequent marriage
3. that at the time of the second marriage, the first or previous marriage is still valid or not yet dissolved
The penalty is prision mayor which is ( 6 years & 1 day to 12 years)
June 10th, 2007 at 1:00 pm
RUFFA: Well, you know what, thank God hindi legal ang kasal namin because I’ve been trying to keep myself sane. I’ve been trying to be quiet this past few months, this past years that I’ve been tortured by him. See, I’m trying to protect him, I’m trying to protect my kids, but know he’s already crossed the line.
Mango says: She’s thankful that her marriage to Ylmaz was not valid? Why then did she let her mother spend so much money for the wedding? I read once that her mother had to borrow money for the wedding. Lining up those ninangs and ninongs? Lahat nang mga taong ito pinagloloko niya. She knew from the very beginning that the marriage was a fluke? Hay naku Rufa nobody pities you dahil umpisa pa lang manloloko ka na.
And the real reason I left him is because all the time he hit me, he abuses me, he tortured me… The last time I left Istanbul in February, he tortured me and he hit me for 15 hours just because may nalaman siya tungkol sa akin.
Mango says: ruffa ruffa, you are full of S..T. You are contradicting yourself. Sabi mo wala kang itinago maski ano kay Yilmaz. Ano yung nalaman niya about you that gave him a reason to beat you up? A person, woman at that would not survive if Yilmaz really beat you and tortured you for 15 hours. Much more flying all the way to PI, stop over in Dubai at nakaya mo ito after Yilmaz tortured you for 15 hours? I never saw your hair became short either. Is it because of PANTENE SHAMPOO? You were very visible as soon as you arrived from Istanbul and not once did I see one or two bruises on you. You were guesting left and right and you are telling people you were tortured and beaten for 15 hours? I think Yilmaz is the one telling the truth here. You escaped because nabisto na niya ang mga pagsisinungaling mo at natakot ka baka kung ano ang gagawin sa iyo. This makes more sense to me than what you are telling the press. If I were you I would stop all the dramas and would cancel your interview tomorrow. This will do you more harm that good. Shut up for 6 months dahil wala kang makukuhang simpatya nang tao lalo na sa mga “patay gutom” who are supporting the careers of your brothers and yours too.
Number one, my life is an open book. He didn’t find me riding a camel in the middle of the desert. I’m Ruffa Gutierrez and I’m just an actress here in the Philippines. He can look on the Internet everything about me. Wala akong itinago sa kanya. He accepted me for who I am. He loved me for who I am.
Mango says: rufa ruffa…your life is not an open book that’s why people branded you as a LIAR. If your life is an open book you wouldn’t be tasting the WRATH of the people. You lie and then you lie some more to cover up the other lies. Everybody knows already that Yilmaz beat you up after that interview with the BUZZ. We, the readers and viewers are not BOBITA or BOBA (your mother’s favorite expression). So, that’s given. But tortured and beat you up for 15 hours continuosly? People will never buy that. Sa Airport pa lang there are already cameras.
BUTCH: Tutal binuksan mo na rin ang isyu ng torture. I’m just concerned, ano itong torture na ito?
RUFFA: Ang torture na ginagawa? Lahat ginagawa niya. Sinasaktan niya ako, binubugbog niya ako, pinutol lahat ng buhok ko, sinisipa ako, kinukulong ako sa cabinet, bine-belt niya ako, lahat!
Mango says: Okay, show some pictures and I will ask for your fogiveness or I will even kiss your feet.
BUTCH: Was there a reason behind yung kanyang anger?
RUFFA: Wala, sira-ulo lang siya. And I’m sorry for me to say this, but this is too much. Every day he’s like threatening me, threatening my Mom, threatening my Dad. It’s too much so kung may mangyari man sa akin, kung mamatay man ako, iisa lang ang may gawa niyan—si Yilmaz lang.
Mango says: There you go again, ruffa. You just said Yilmaz tortured and beat you for 15 hours because he came to learn something about you. Now, sira ulo na naman siya. Which is which? Make up your mind. Yan ang mahirap sa mga LIARS. Hindi mag-katugma tugma ang mga sagot.
BUTCH: Is that an admission ba na there was really a previous marriage?
RUFFA: When you’re young, you know, you do crazy things, you make mistakes. But as you grow older, you learn from these mistakes and you move on. When I married Yilmaz in 2003, I changed. I became a good wife and I became a good mother.
Mango says: You were no longer young when you married a 45 year-old guy. Give me a break. You were an adult.
And I think now, you know, what he’s doing to me, he’s trying to ruin my reputation because ayaw niya akong maging successful dito, ayaw niyang magkaroon ako ng trabaho, ayaw niya akong mag-move on.
Mango says: Nobody ruined your life but YOU and your mother. When your mother started calling people “patay gutom” Bobita, Boba to the extent of asking her money back from those people who owed her on national television and even named names your own mother ruined you and pray that this will not affect your brothers’ careers or else balik na naman kayo sa pagtitinda nang mga kaldero. You were not born rich…you were poor and when you eventually achieved those material things that you have right now naging matapobre kayong mag-ina. Social climber talaga kayo. Watch your video when you were in Vegas. Nakakahiya yung mga pinagsasabi mo. “Nasa harap ako nang pinaka sosyal na hotel dito.” You don’t say those things. The only people who would say such things are the social climbers. You are trying very hard to prove to the “patay Gutom” how rich you are even if you’r not. You have means. yes pero mas maraming mas mayaman sa yo.. I am one of them, to tell you the truth.
Ilang beses na siyang tumatawag sa akin, gusto niya akong bumalik sa kanya. Hindi ko na kayang bumalik sa kanya. Di baleng mamatay na lang akong single, mag-isa kasama ‘yong mga anak ko.
Ayoko na siyang balikan pa kasi tuwing naaalala ko ‘yong mga ginawa niya sa akin, hindi ko masikmura. And the reason why my Mom is reacting this way, di alam ng publiko, because the last fight that we had, sinabi ko sa kanya, sabi ko, ‘Ma, humingi ka na ng tulong kay President [Gloria Macapagal] Arroyo.’
Mango says: Oh, para ka namang si Teresa Carlson Farinas. Tried to ask help from the President. Tumalon ka na lang din kaya sa pinakamataas na building diyan sa PI. Yan talaga ang ma-drama.
I left my house, tumakbo ako, punung-puno ako ng dugo. Lahat ng mga yaya ko witness ko, lahat ng mga kaibigan ko, witness ko. Umuwi ako sa Pilipinas may blackeye ako, lahat ng legs ko punung-puno ng marks. Sinabi ko sa family ko ang totoong nangyari kaya ayaw na nilang tanggapin si Yilmaz. Iyon ang totoo.
Mango says: Ilan ba ang yaya mo? E bakit nung nasa Dubai ka you had to call your mother to come help you dahil hirap na hirap ka na dahil ang dami mong karga. Oh, I forgot you have 50 household helps. Yabang niyong mag-ina talaga.
BUTCH: Pero ito ba nagsimula nang ikinasal ka noong 2003? Immediately nangyari ba ‘yong torturing, ‘yong pagbubugbugan?
RUFFA: Hindi. Dati naman sinasaktan niya ako pero hindi ganun kagrabe. Mula noong nabaril siya, parang nag-take na siya ng mga anti-depressant. Iyong doktor pumupunta sa bahay, naging depressed siya. And then, doon nagsimula ang lahat, two years ago.
BUTCH: Sabi rin ni Yilmaz, kaya ka raw pumunta ng LA [Los Angeles] ay para kuhanin at dukutin ang mga papeles ng supposedly first marriage mo?
RUFFA: Alam mo, si Yilmaz nawawala na sa sarili niya. Araw-araw iba ang ano…one day he’ll call me and say bad things about me. Just last night, I was with friends, we had dinner sa bahay ni Gov. Chavit Singson—kasama ang Mommy ko [AnnabelleRama] at Daddy ko [Eddie Gutierrez], kasama ang mga kaibigan ko. Tawag siya nang tawag, sino daw lalaking kasama ko, sino daw ang mga kasama. You know, I mean, I’m sick and tired of this and I just wanna move on.
Mango says: I did not know you’re close to chavit. BWAHAHA
BUTCH: Kaya ka daw umuwi ng Pilipinas dahil alam mo nang alam niya na [kasal] ka na previously?
RUFFA: Kaya ako umuwi ng Pilipinas at umalis ako doon dahil binugbog niya ako for 15 hours. Noong na-meet ko Yilmaz, alam na niya ‘yong buong istorya ko, kung anong buhay ko, at alam niya ‘yong tungkol sa sinasabi niyang kasal-kasal na iyon dahil first month pa lang ng relasyon namin, noong 2000, alam na niya. Inamin ko na sa kanya lahat ang totoo.
Mango says: Yun naman pala eh. Why didn’t you come out clean. Mas credible and litanya ni Yilmaz dito. Sorry. And then I read once na “yung mga kalde-kaldero na hindi naman totoo” (for Fermin)Your mother admitted that recently through national television. Sinungaling ka talaga, Bistado kana ayaw pang umamin. Then during the interview with your mother about the caldero you cut her off. You did not want the people most especially Yilmaz to know that you were POOR did you. ruffa?
BUTCH: So wala kang itinatago?
RUFFA: Wala akong itinatago. I don’t need to hide anything. I think now, it’s clear. I’ve said enough. Ayoko na siyang balikan pa. And if he wants to make this ugly, then so be it. Ayoko nang magsalita. Tomorrow [June 10], magsasalita ako sa The Buzz and last na iyon.
BUTCH: This can get badly, sabi niya [Yilmaz], he will do everything to get the kids. Ano’ng binabalak mo ngayon?
RUFFA: No, the kids are gonna be with me because I took care of them, I’m supporting them. When I gave birth to Venice, he wasn’t even there. I’m the Mom and I can take care of my kids. He hasn’t sent me one single penny since February. I don’t need his money. I don’t need anything from him because I can support my kids.
Thank God, my Mom is there, my Dad is there, my family is there to support me. I have work and I can support my own kids. So hindi niya kayang suportahan ang mga anak ko dahil hindi naman siya nagbibigay ng sustento, apat na buwan na.
Si Yilmaz naman puro panakot lang iyan, e. Araw-araw tine-threaten niya ako, araw-araw nananakot siya. But, you know, everything that has to…regarding the custody of my kids, my lawyers will take care of that.
BUTCH: Ang sabi niya, maaari ka daw niyang kasuhan ng kidnapping dahil nailabas mo daw ng Turkey ang iyong mga anak.
RUFFA: E di kasuhan niya ako! See, you know, hindi naman ako ‘yong naglagay ng baril sa utak niya para ipadala ang mga bata sa akin. Kusang-loob niyang ipinadala ang mga bata sa akin. When I left in February, I left Istanbul alone. I left my kids with him and after ten days he sent the kids with me.
BUTCH: Ina-accuse ka rin niya na kapag tumatawag daw siya sa bahay ninyo ay hindi ka niya nakakausap at dahil wala ka raw sa bahay?
RUFFA: Kasi ayaw ko siyang kausapin. Pinapatay ko ‘yong phone niya. I don’t wanna speak to him anymore. Ang phone ko pinapatay ko because he calls me 55 times a day. He stresses me out, nagkaka-wrinkles na ako, pumuputi ang buhok ko. He’s [a] psycho, so every time he calls the house, pinapapasa ko lang sa mga katulong. At hindi ako gabi-gabing lumalabas at gabi-gabing lasing. Hello, excuse me?!
BUTCH: Ano ang message mo kay Yilmaz?
RUFFA: Wala akong message sa kanya, sana he’ll leave me alone. I hope he moves on with his life the same way that I’m moving on with my life.
BUTCH: Anong message mo sa family mo na talagang tumutok sa iyo all this time?
RUFFA: Sa pamilya ko, I’m proud to have a mother like Annabelle Rama. I’m proud to have a father like Eddie Gutierrez. They’ve been with me through this difficult time in my life. And he can say whatever he wants regarding my Mom, but my Mom will just [protect] me. And my Mom will never ever allow me to go back to him because nakita niya lahat ng mga pasa ko, nagpakuwento siya sa mga yaya ng anak ko.
And the reason why na hindi puwede tumira ‘yong mga anak ko sa kanya because they’re not safe in Istanbul with him—his reputation, his business. Hindi sila safe kasama si Yilmaz sa Istanbul.
Mango said: Reputation? Business? The kids are not safe there? So tell me ruffa, bakit galit na galit ang nanay mong bastos kay Dolly Anne? Why does your mother get so mad at her when she’s just doing her job? The news did not come from her originally. It came from a Turkey Newspaper. Suma total…talagang ubod ka pa ri nang sinungaling. I will never believe a sigle word you are going to say in that interview. Cry a river but NOPE and a lot of the “patay gutom” won’t either…
BUTCH: Message mo kay Lorin at Venice?
RUFFA: Wala akong message sa kanila dahil wala silang alam sa nangyayari. And I want to leave it that way.
Sana ho, ‘yong mga nakikinig ngayon sa akin—ang mga Pilipino, lahat ng mga nanay, lahat ng mga may asawa who’s gone through what I’ve gone through—sana po pakinggan ninyo ako, ako po ang Pilipino, hindi si Yilmaz. He’s from a different kind, he’s from a different breed.
Sa akin kayo maniwala, especially sa mga babae dahil babae rin kayo. Kung sinasaktan na kayo ng asawa ninyo—at hindi lang sampal at sipa—kapag tino-torture na kayo, nilalagyan na kayo ng baril sa ulo at tinututukan na ng baril…
I think my decision to leave him is the best decision I’ll ever make in my life because he will never change, he will only get worse. And I have to protect myself, my safety, and the safety of my kids. That’s why I’m in the Philippines now, this is where I’m safe and this is my home.
I hope all of you respect my decision and support me kung ayaw ko nang balikan ang asawa ko. Sana maintindihan ako ng mga tao.
Mango says: Who cares what you do next? NOT ME.
said happymango on Jun 10, 2007 at 12:58 AM
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June 10th, 2007 at 9:56 am
this ruffa/annabelle VS Dolly is a waste of time at very shameful lalo na sa eyes ng mga foreigner !!! And Dolly, mataas pala ang pinag-aralan iya, bakit pinasok niya ang show biz ‘ CHISHMISH ‘ !!!! Like the mother ( may she rest in peace ), puro ‘SIYETE’ ang sinsulat niya, igniting anger instead of peace! Magsulat na lang siya ng about on how to improve the lives of the ” PATAY GUTOMS ” na mga tao!! HUWAG iyung puro na lang TSISMISHHHH !!! SDYANG KA, DOLLY…MAY PINAGARALAN KA PALA!!
June 10th, 2007 at 8:30 am
i salute dolly carvajal…for being a sensible writer and a refine lady..lets not forget anabelle’s background..its a retaliation of what she underwent when she was still young..and its a pity that until now she is still carrying her excess baggage..kaka awa..and ruffa despite her age,,allows her mother to fully control her entire life..mas nakaka awa…
June 10th, 2007 at 3:40 am
Got beaten up for 15 hours and she’s not dead yet or passed out? Pinagpuputol and buhok niya but because she’s using PANTENE shampoo madaling humaba? BWAHAHAHAHIHIHI
“Ako and pilipina ako ang paniwalaan niyo.” Bwahahaha. You are making a mistake. You are asking the “PATAY GUTOM” a big gigantic favor…BWAHAHAHADi bale nandiyan naman si Chavit…